Self-Worth-Choosing to Be Happy-4 More Ways

Today I want to share four more important considerations in developing and maintaining healthy beliefs and practices for self-worth.

• Replace perfectionism.  Perfectionism is destructive in our daily lives.  We can take action yet very rarely or never be satisfied with our results, but instead, we can add more negative feelings about ourselves.  We might become paralyzed from taking any action, because we are afraid of not living up to some standard we have set for ourselves.  Another might be that we procrastinate, so that it is impossible to get the results we want.  In any case, our feelings of self-worth suffer.                             How can we replace our perfectionism with wiser choices? 
• Decide to go for good enough.  A trap with perfection is that often it is never finished, because if we do one more thing it will be better.  Make it really good, but realize that there is a good enough and then it is finished.
• Perfection has myths in it. Remember that buying into those myths will likely hurt us and the people in our life.  We need to simply remind ourselves that life isn't like a movie, book, etc. where things are "perfect".  Also reality can be different that our expectations, some things just can't be predicted.  Also we need to be aware that clinging on to perfection can lead to endings of relationships, jobs, etc.
• STOP falling into the comparison trap.  When we compare ourselves and our lives to other people and their lives, we will never win.  If we are fair, we will realize we don't compare fairly and, in reality, we don't know what is really happening in other people's lives.  Also there will always be someone who has more or better than we feel we are.  This is another habit that is better replaced.  To do this we can look at how far we have come.  When we compare ourselves to us, we will be able to see the improvements we have made and what next steps we might want to make  This can motivate us and raise our feelings of self-worth.
• Be Cautious of our environment, spend more of our time in supportive environments.  Even if we focus on being kinder towards others and ourselves and replace a perfectionist habit, it will be hard to keep our self-worth up, unless our environment supports us.  It will be a challenge if there are strong influences in our daily environment that put us down.  We need to be aware of the input we are receiving.  Are there unkind, unsupportive people in our life?  If so, we can choose to spend less time with them and spend more time with positive, uplifting people who have kinder standards and ways of thinking about things and will be more supportive of our goals and dreams.  Also we need to be aware of what we are listening to, read, and watch and spend less time with things that lead us to be unsure of and negative towards ourselves.  Use that time to spend on information that helps us feel good about us and what our goals are.
• Remind ourselves often of why self-worth is important.  The simplest way to stay consistent in doing something is to remember why we are doing it.  So as we seek to build and maintain our feelings of self-worth, remember the reasons that are important. What are they?  Back on February 25th, the following reasons were listed:  
•  Our lives becomes simpler and lighter.  
• We have more inner stability.  
• We have less self-sabotage.  
• We will be more attractive in any relationship.    
• We will be happier.

We might want to place our reasons where we can refer to them often!